“Working with Inger has been transformative not just for my 10 year old daughter but for the whole family.
We asked for Inger’s help because of my daughter’s terrifying panic attacks/emotional melt-downs. She lived in constant fear of getting in trouble at school and described the inside of her head as “all the drawers being open at the same time”. She had been referred to CAHMS by our GP.
I knew I was a worrier with a tendency to over-explain and over-protect because of my huge fear that my childhood history would repeat itself on her.
Since seeing Inger, my daughter is now much more confident in herself. She’s able to ring doorbells, go into shops, pay voluntarily and ask for food from waiters. Before, that would have been unthinkable.
She is settled at school and has even asked if she could do an overnight boarding! I am so excited for her – this shows just how far she has come and how much more secure she is feeling now.
Inger has gently helped me to see that I was feeding my daughter’s insecurities. I’ve changed my own behaviour so I don’t do that anymore, and I’m now able to put my foot down with her when I need to.
Before we saw Inger, I felt powerless. My lack of understanding was holding my daughter back. Now, I feel empowered. It’s a fantastic feeling to know that I’m able to do something constructive that will help her to recognise how confident she really is!
Surrogate tapping definitely works and is a great thing to have in your toolbox as a parent.
I now feel much better about expressing what I want and how I feel and our household is generally happier and more relaxed as a result. I know it’s a cliché, but I feel I have found myself again. I feel upbeat and engaged, and even my sister has commented that I’m more like my old self.
I still have the same tendencies to overprotect and to overthink, but I’m aware of it now and I know how to stop myself.
And my own childhood stuff? I am over that now too!”
