The Danger Lurking Behind the Screen
Unless you’ve been living under a rock you will know about the new Netflix drama, Adolescence, starring Stephen Graham that every parent needs to see. It’s raw, it’s real, and it highlights something we can’t afford to ignore, the influence of the toxic online world on our teenagers.
We often think the biggest threats to our children are out there in the world. But they’re not. They’re in their bedrooms. They’re in their phones. They’re online.
Young boys, in particular, are being targeted by manipulative influencers who push toxic beliefs about masculinity, power, and emotions. These voices are shaping how our kids see themselves and the world.
The question is: How do we stop it?
The Rise of Toxic Influencers
In recent years, a dangerous wave of online influencers has emerged, preaching messages that:
✖️ Success = Power, Money & Dominance
✖️ Emotions = Weakness
✖️ The World is Against You
These influencers create content that preys on teenage insecurities, convincing them that:
⚠️ Being dominant is the only way to succeed.
⚠️ Vulnerability makes you weak.
⚠️ Women and society are against them.
This is not an accident, it’s deliberate. And it’s working.
If parents don’t step in, these influencers will.
Why Are Boys Falling for This?
Boys are not the problem. The issue is the emotional void that these influencers exploit.
When teenagers feel unheard, misunderstood, or disconnected, they seek guidance from the loudest voices. And right now? Those voices are often toxic.
These influencers are filling a gap that should be occupied by:
✔ Parents – Offering open conversations and emotional guidance.
✔ Healthy role models – Demonstrating positive masculinity.
✔ Communities – Helping teens feel seen and supported.
The goal isn’t to ban everything, it’s to get there first.
If we don’t show up, someone else will.
What Can Parents Do?
Talk to Your Teen About What They’re Watching
Ask open-ended questions like:
✔ “What do you think about what he’s saying?”
✔ “How does this content make you feel?”
✔ “Do you agree with all of it?”
Teach Emotional Intelligence
Boys need to hear:
✔ “Your emotions are valid.”
✔ “You don’t have to prove your worth with power.”
✔ “Being vulnerable is a strength, not a weakness.”
Set Healthy Digital Boundaries
Instead of outright banning, co-create screen rules with your teen:
✔ No smartphones in bedrooms.
✔ No toxic content at home.
✔ A mix of educational & positive media.
Fathers & Male Role Models Need to Step Up
Teenage boys are hungry for guidance.
Healthy masculinity must be modelled.
It’s time for strong, emotionally intelligent men to take back the narrative.
It Starts With Us
We can’t ignore this.
Parents must get ahead of the toxic influencers, by listening, guiding, and creating emotionally safe spaces.
What are your biggest concerns about your teen’s screen time?
Send me a message, I’d love to hear your thoughts.