by Inger Madsen | Oct 29, 2025 | Blog
If you’ve ever looked at your teenager and thought, where did my lovely child go? You’re not alone. One minute they’re warm and funny, the next it’s slammed doors, sarcasm, or silence. Here’s the truth: adolescence is a full-scale renovation project. Their brain,...
by Inger Madsen | Oct 16, 2025 | Blog
The Hidden Emotion Running Your Family System This week I spoke with two mothers from completely different walks of life. One was terrified of confrontation — her teenage daughter had learned exactly how to use that fear, keeping her phone all night, missing school,...
by Inger Madsen | Sep 18, 2025 | Blog
When your teenager comes home crushed by friendship dramas – excluded from the group chat, left out of parties, or convinced they have no friends – it feels unbearable. Their despair becomes your despair. You can’t sleep. You’re angry at the other kids,...
by Inger Madsen | Aug 18, 2025 | Blog
I said in an earlier post that as a therapist, you’re your own first client. And I can tell you – that first client of mine? She was… intense. She couldn’t sleep when her child was sad. She’d jump in, fix it, rescue it – anything but let them struggle....
by Inger Madsen | Jul 28, 2025 | Blog
“You’re not talking to your teenager anymore.” That realisation changed everything for me. Because when your teen walks in late, you ask, “Where have you been?” and suddenly — boom. Explosion. Sarcasm. Eye rolls. A teary monologue about how you never trust them. Sound...
by Inger Madsen | Jul 15, 2025 | Blog
They say as a therapist, you’re your own first client. Well, I was. Many years ago, I watched my children enter adolescence – and everything I thought I knew about parenting crumbled. There were slammed doors, silence, refusals, rudeness.And inside me? Sadness....
by Inger Madsen | Jul 3, 2025 | Blog
When your child is in pain, and you can’t breathe The look she gave me winded me. Not because it was dramatic or defiant – but because it said everything:I don’t trust you to keep me safe right now. And in that moment, I knew exactly how she felt, because I’ve...
by Inger Madsen | Jun 18, 2025 | Blog
When Your Kids Are At War – And You’re the Casualty Last week, during my From Conflict to Connection masterclass, a dad asked a brilliant and painful question: “What do I do when my children fight each other? Not just bickering – full-on screaming,...
by Inger Madsen | May 13, 2025 | Blog
Have you ever felt completely confused by your teen’s moods – or your own? This came up for me the other day, working with a dad who was repeatedly ping-ponging between feeling desperately sorry for his son and completely aggravated by the rudeness and pushback....
by Inger Madsen | May 6, 2025 | Blog
Accept what is – and it changes Last week I gave a keynote at Saffron Walden County High School – talking all things teen chaos, and why it’s not the moment for logic. You might’ve been there. Your child’s yelling, spiralling, totally unreachable. You try...
